Today I want to talk about something that I went through and I know many other SAHM’s are going through too but nobody wants to talk about: Depression.
Being a stay at home mom has many rewards but many of us suffer from depression and we think that we should keep it to ourselves because staying home with our kids is a privilege and we should be happy all the time. I do agree that it is a privilege and a blessing but we should not ignore how we feel. Did you know that there is such a thing as “Stay at home Depression”? According to a 2012 Gallup poll, SAHM s are more likely to feel depressed than working moms.
“But for some of us, being a stay at home mom brought with it unexpected things that we did not see coming: feelings of isolation, financial dependability and lack of purpose.”
We do love our children and being able to care for them at home but there is also an emptiness inside. And so we feel ashamed because we don’t want to seem ungrateful or that we don’t appreciate our husbands who are able to support our family so we can stay home with the kids. But for some of us, being a stay at home mom brought with it unexpected things that we did not see coming: feelings of isolation, financial dependability and lack of purpose.
We feel isolated because we stay home with not much adult interaction most of the day.
We feel dependent because our husbands are the ones bringing in the money. Deep down we feel disempowered when we have to ask for money all the time. We wish we could find a way to contribute financially without sacrificing staying home with our kids.
We feel a lack of purpose because we begin to loose our identity and see ourselves as our kids' mom, our husbands' wife, our house's housekeeper. Nothing more, nothing less.
There is Hope
From what I’ve been through , and many other SAHM ’s like me, many of these issues, if not all of them, can be solved by pursuing a dream of so